“Hell happens when the evil of the world exceeds our belief
that we can conquer it.” – Divinci’s Demons
This might be the first time that I’ve taken a quote from a TV series, but it had such an impact on me when I heard it, I had to write it down.
I’m sure you know somebody that says, “I’m in Hell”. Are they saying it for sympathy or recognition or have they truly fallen so low that they can’t see any possible way to get out of their situation? When it is the latter, what can we do about it?
There will always be what people perceive as good and evil or hell in this world. It’s all just that, a perception. This is why I am such a huge proponent of The Law of Attraction. I will get to that momentarily, but first, before jumping directly into the fire (no pun intended), a little background on how I got to this point.
I’ve felt a time or two that there was no way in the world that I could ever change my life, that I was doomed to this existence. So I can speak from experience. It wasn’t until I started to retrain my brain to think differently, did this change.
It’s hard for people to hear that nothing is impossible
if they think that everything is indeed, impossible.
To those people they are just words, quotes out of Chicken Soup for the Soul or some other self help book. To hear those words and have them mean something in your life, you, at first, need to take baby steps. You need to reach out to someone who truly does believe these words. Someone who can help you, guide you to your feet. Eventually little things will start happening around you that prove to you that, in fact, nothing is impossible. It will take belief. And part of the reason it took me so long is because I needed physical proof.
I’ve never been much of a believer
mainly because I never had belief in myself.
It’s the mirror that I’ve talked about in other blogs. We can’t see what we are not, inside. So it’s going to take reshaping ourselves inside for the outside to change. It took me going back to my childhood where I would sit in my room for hours alone building cities with my lego blocks. Racing my matchbox cars around the city. Making believe that anything that came to my head was possible. It took retracing my steps backwards to where it all began. It started when my father left us. I was only Seven. I had become a grown up at Seven, the man of the house. How overwhelming is that? It took me forgiving my father for what he had done to us (or what I perceived as him doing to us), and accepting that his reality is much different than mine.
He didn’t do this to me personally, I did this to myself.
It took all of this for me to start retraining my brain to know that I do matter. That I am, in fact, the person that I am today because of it. I needed to believe again.
Some people run to religion, some run to drugs or alcohol or sex. In moderation, any of these can be fun or helpful tools for us. (I’ve always wanted to take a trip on ayahuasca). But each one of these things become crutches, band-aids to the real problem, until you can actually believe in yourself. Again, they are all TEMPORARY until you believe in yourself. Baby steps, Baby!
So how do we do this? Where do we start?
Like I mentioned above… get someone who can help you, guide you. If you don’t have the means to get a coach, get a friend that you can lean on for a bit. Someone you can trust with all of your deep dark secrets. You need to go back to the root of the problem. Figure out where it all started by peeling back the layers of the onion.
There might be a lot of layers to peel back but if you don’t start now
there will be even more layers to peel back in the future.
For me it was delving into Summit Education when I lived in Florida. It was kind of like a Tony Robbins program. It had three phases. Basic, Advanced and the the Leadership course where I would have coaching calls every morning before I started my day. I equate it to Marine Corp Bootcamp, only for your soul. It took months of retraining to get the neural pathways to start new, healthier patterns. Kind of like grooves on a record. I dug so deep that I eventually became a coach.
You can go to a Tony Robbin’s seminar or some other self help seminar for a weekend and it will have an impact, but for 99% of you it will be very short lived. It won’t really stop the patterns. It will only put a band-aid on them. You need to really dig in and make yourself uncomfortable.
Facing your fears, your mistakes, and traumas
will scare the shit out of you.
But when you finally reach that layer of the onion that has kept you where you are today you will smile and you will gladly start going deeper down the rabbit hole.
For me, that rabbit hole led me to The Law of Attraction. It started with a movie called The Secret which was a great introduction into the Law of Attraction. I hold these believes dear to me because after traveling down this spiritual highway it rang true to my soul. It was so simple that it was funny. You see, the basics of the Law of Attraction are this…
What you focus on becomes your reality.
Silly right? I mean, what if we could start our lives out believing this?
Let’s break this down… What we focus on becomes our reality. Imagine this… You’re driving down the highway heading towards where you want to go, you’ve got your GPS dialed in and all of a sudden you see something on the side of the road and you just can’t get your eyes off of it, then your car crashes. You get out and say to yourself, “How did this happen? How did I end up here?” It happened because your focus was on something else. It wasn’t a temporary glance.
Life is this way for most of us. We get down in the dumps and we crash. We can’t take our focus off of what brought us to that point, instead of temporarily looking at it, recognizing it for what it is, and then focusing back our attention on our destination. This happens because we start believing it. We start believing it because we don’t have the tools to recognize it for what it is, a temporary distraction.
Now this is a very basic introduction to this only for the sake of time and space for this blog, but I encourage you to delve deep down into that rabbit hole. Start peeling back the layers of the onion and soon the evil of this world that everyone perceives, will only be a temporary distraction to where your destination lies.
And remember this…
It’s called a Spiritual Practice for a reason.
It must become a practice, every day, or it will fade away.
Peace,
David
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